Having a new baby is probably the most life altering experience that can happen in a person’s life. Everything changes, from being able to get up and go to the gym or go shopping when you want, to sleeping for more than 4 hours at a time.
It’s easy to try and imagine what this can be like but you will never be able to fully understand the implications of this until you have experienced it. Therefore it is important to try and be opened minded about all aspects of having a baby and to understand the changes that will most likely happen in your relationship with your significant other.
If you were used to having frequent dates or time alone together, this will stop. At least for the near future whilst you get to grips with the needs of your baby including feeding, changing, soothing them whilst they cry whilst trying to catch up on lost sleep that will make you feel exhausted. You can however try to spend time together indoors when the baby is sleeping, watching a film together perhaps. As you baby gets older, it will become easier as you may find relatives offer to help watch your baby for a few hours so that you can join your partner in an evening out.
Sex is another thing that will change in the beginning. It is recommended that women abstain from sex for 6 weeks after the birth of a baby to allow your body time to recover and to reduce the risk of infection. It is a good idea to discuss this subject together so that there are no surprises for your man when the time comes! Every woman is different however and some women may feel ok after 4 weeks and some wont feel up to it until 8 weeks postpartum or longer.
The dynamics in the household will change. You will find that if you both shared chores, your partner may need to take the lion’s share of these whilst you’re feeding and tending to the baby. If your partner is back at work and you are at home caring for the baby, it can still be difficult to do things around the house as you did before especially if the baby won’t settle and you are feeling exhausted from lack of sleep. Once again it is a good idea to discuss this possibility prior to the baby being born so that everyone knows where they stand.
Overall relationships do change when a baby is born but this does not mean it has to be a negative thing. A little give and take, respect and understanding on both sides will go a long way. Be sure to appreciate each other. When your partner is working all day and comes home to cook dinner and help out with the chores that you were unable to catch up on that day, be sure to appreciate him the same way he appreciates all you do as the mother of his